The decision to seek therapy is never an easy one. Couples present to therapy with many issues and very often one partner has been the motivating force. The other partner often says that "therapy is a waste of time," "there is nothing wrong with me", "you are the one with problems so you go to therapy." When these couple appear in my office it does not take long before I realize who wants to be there. The partner who initially called for the appointment usually presents a laundry list of complaints about the other and expects me to "fix" their partner or at least agree with them that it all the other partners fault.
When an individual schedules an appointment they can often appear hesitant and reluctant to be sitting in the session. It is a scary thing to walk into the office of a stranger, share your thoughts and admit that you need help. There is the fear of rejection, judgement or being told that you have a mental disorder.
So "why therapy?" Despite the fact that we may have a large family, many friends and a strong church family human beings are lonely and feel that their concerns are not valid. More often than not a client will begin the session by stating a disclaimer..."I really don't know why I am here" or "I probably shouldn't be here because..." or "This probably sounds dumb..." or "I am probably over reacting but..." This is because we are afraid that our thoughts are not important and we do not feel that we can share them with those we love or we have been judge or punished for having the thoughts we have.
"Why therapy?" Because in therapy my clients are heard. Their concerns are validated, discussed and they received feedback that is not judgmental. Therapy is suppose to be a safe place for human interact. It is where clients can ask for help and not feel helpless or foolish. I feel honored to be witness to my client's stories. I want them to feel safe, comfortable and relax in my sessions.
If you are struggling with a difficult relationship, feeling of low self esteem, lack of support, loneliness, anger, hopelessness, challenged by those around you whether they are your children, your spouse or your parents seek therapy. There is no shame in seeking others support, advice or caring. Life is short and you deserve to be happy. Improve the quality of your life by sitting down with me to plan change in your life.
I practice client directed therapy. I work in a family systems modality and as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapy, I work with individuals, couples and family. I work with depression, anxiety, abuse, addiction, anger management, premarital counseling, life coaching, gay and lesbians issues, transgender issues, sexual disorders, infidelity problems, self-esteem, life transitions and much more. I offer free initial consultations and a sliding scale fee based on federal poverty standards. Call me today and schedule an appointment. 316-305-7106
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