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Where does your time go? Can you control time?

Can we really control time?  I have rarely met anyone who told me that they have all the time in the world and have complete control over time.  Time does have a way of getting away from us.  We underestimate our time.  We decide to tackle a project without planning sufficient time to complete it.  We procrastinate and then rush to complete a project or get to a meeting.  However, here are some valuable tools to help you control the way you allocate your time.  Time is one of your most valuable resources, so learn to take steps to manage it.

Fighting Depression during the Holidays

Are you fighting depression?  Feeling down during the holidays can be tough, especially since you seem so out of step with the world. Everyone else seems to be beaming, ruddy-cheeked, bursting with holiday spirit. You’re feeling wretched and exhausted. You don’t feel like getting out of bed, yet alone spreading holiday cheer.

But here’s something to cheer you up the next time you’re stuck in a room of revelers at a holiday party: Plenty of them are probably unhappy, too. You are not alone; many people suffer from depression around the holidays.

How to Survive a Narcississtic Relationship

Do you have someone in your life that is you believe is narcissistic?  Is it all about them?  Are they just selfish, self-centered or do they have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.   Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a long-standing pattern of grandiosity (either in fantasy or actual behavior), an overwhelming need for admiration, and usually a complete lack of empathy toward others. People with this disorder often believe they are of primary importance in everybody’s life or to anyone they meet.

Living your Priorites

Do you ever feel like you spend all your hours and daysdoingand notliving? Client often tell me that they feel like they are on a treadmill and cannot get off.  They express that they want to take time to take care of themselves, enjoy their family and just stop to smell the roses but do not see a way off the track.  We live in a rat race that society has us running and we are losing sight of what we are really living for.

The problem is that we have forgotten how to organize our priorities.

Hypnotherapy...does it work?

“Does it work? “ Most people would agree that this is the probably the number one question for anyone considering hypnotherapy. Is it magic? No. So often client have many misconceptions about hypnotherapy and how it works.  There is little doubt, and research has shown hypnotherapy produces results and is often successful where other treatments have not been so effective.  But how does it work? And will it work for you?

You may know people who somehow seem determined to get over difficulties in their life.

Healing your Broken Relationship

How do you heal a broken relationship?  How do you trust, again, after someone cheats?  How do you reconnect after so many years of living with distance between you? These are a few of my many questions that I hear from clients who are trying to repair their relationships.  Unfortunately, most people wait until they are ready to divorce or leave a relationship before they decide to seek couple’s therapy.  At this point they have one foot out the door and are saying “Let’s give it one more chance.

Are you stuck in a rut?

Are you stuck in a rut?  Getting stuck is inevitable but staying there is not.  There are all kinds of ways we can get stuck; exercise slump, relationship rut, career stalemate, or an overall mental funk.  Do any of those sound familiar?  There are traps that we fall into that stall us and threaten to flat line our progress.

Here are some helpful tips for getting unstuck and avoid the mistakes that sabotage your success:

  1. Start over –when we begin a new change we are enthusiastic and we start to see dramatic changes; however, once we get comfortable we let up on our drive.

Are you winning or losing in your relationship?

The subject of baseball may seem odd for a blog subject on a Marriage and Family Therapy website. However, baseball has been on my mind the last week because our Kansas City Royals were playing in the World Series. My husband and I lived in Kansas City for about ten years and attend all the Royals games we could. That included the 1985 season when they were last in the World Series. Last night our Royals lost to the San Francisco Giants. So are they losers? Do you feel that you lose in your relationships or are you always the winner?

Mindfulness Creates Choices

Are you aware of your choices?  So often in my practice, it is apparent that many times clients are not aware of their choices.  I think so often we accept a situation because it has become the normal behavior and we feel that we have loss our power to make changes.  This is especially true with child abuse victims.  If you have never had a voice in your life because someone took it away at a young age, it is difficult to be aware that you have a choice to make your life different.

I Have a Dream!

“I have a dream.” Martin Luther King made that beautiful speech which inspired millions at the time, and continues to inspire millions today. Do you have a dream? I ask my clients about their goals for therapy and most often they can list at least three or four things they want to fix in their lives. They usually start with all the things that are wrong, what they do wrong or what someone else does to them. However, when I ask them the simple question, “Do you have a dream?