Do you need help with our New Year's Resolution?
At the beginning of a new year we feel refreshed and like we have been given a second chance to get it right. We look back at the previous year and feel regret for what we didn't accomplish or how we spent those precious 365 days. The reality of seeing the New Year come is similar to the feeling we get when we have another birthday. We realize that time is going and we reevaluate where we are in our lives to where we had planned to be at this time in our lives.
We make a list or plan for how we are going to change things for the better. We are going to lose weight, save money, start an exercise program, spend more time with our families or do something that we have been putting off for the past year. We start out with all the best intentions and we follow our plan for a few days or even a few weeks; however, the excitement of the change begins to fade. It just starts to feel like another year.
The pattern happens for many of us over and over, year after year. We are not lazy or unmotivated. We do not lack willpower or self-control. Yet, every time this happens the behavior is reinforced. Each time we start to make progress and quit, get off track or distracted the behavior is reinforced so that the next time we start we follow the same pattern. We do what we know and we know how this goes. This pattern becomes ingrained in our brains. When I do X...I get X results.
In my work with clients, I help then by using treatments based on cognitive behavioral psychology to retrain and change those neuropathic brain pathways that control our ability to make change. It is not an easy fix. As I said, I work with the clients. I coach them to set up their lives for success and stop the pattern of what I call living "Ground Hog Day" over and over every year.
The amazing thing is that getting unstuck from the pattern of your life in one area will reinforce our ability to make changes in other areas. If you feel that you are at a place where you desire change; not where you are just contemplating change call for a free consultation and we will work on making 2012 the best year of your life.