One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is “How do I change my ….?” You can fill in the blank with anything from spouse, child, life, behavior to marriage. Everyone reports that there is some area of their life that isn’t working and they say they want change. Unfortunately, the issues become difficult when they learn that to have change they must become uncomfortable.
Change is a constant. Some changes we go through are small; some are more of the "crisis" variety. But everything changes and we struggle with change.
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy
I have written two books about the process of change and I am currently finishing a third. Why does it take so many books to cover the subject of change?
I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples. - Mother Teresa
Change is universal and does not discriminate. Change presents itself in our lives in such a vast array of ways. It can be due to a trauma or loss, a joyous event such as birth of a child, or as a challenging event such as a move or new job. Have you ever thought about how many changes you have experienced in your life? Despite our best efforts we cannot avoid change.
People underestimate their capacity for change. There is never a right time to do a difficult thing. – John Porter
Often as with many of my clients, we seek change to help us reach our goals. I always wonder when I am hearing my clients voice their dreams, goals and aspirations if it is the “goal” they want or the “change” that comes with it. It is my job as their therapist to prepare them for the uncomfortable part of the change.
Yesterday I experienced a change. I had a birthday. With each change there is an adjustment to the new normal. I address the “new normal” in my second book. I am still adjusting to being a year older. However, I do realize that it is my perception of my age that determines how the change affects me.
Are you having a hard time adjusting to change or are you looking for a way to make changes in your life but don’t know where to start? Call me for a free consultation and watch the website for a free offer to download a chapter from one of my books.
What I like most about change is that it’s a synonym for “hope”. If you are taking a risk, what you are really saying is, “I believe in tomorrow and I will be part of it.” – Linda Ellerbee