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Every month I have picked a theme to cover and this month the theme is close to my heart.  It is Resilience.  How resilient are you?  Do you know how to describe resilience? Resilience (or resiliency) is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as we planned. Resilient people don't wallow or dwell on failures; they acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then move forward.  We all have resilient people in our lives and we hear ourselves saying, “I don’t know how she/he keeps going with all the heartaches, disappointments, setbacks and losses?” 

I decide to make resilience the theme for September due to the horrendous events of 9/11 and thereafter.  We are facing another anniversary and the threat of future possible attacks.  When we think of the worst possible thing that could happen and wonder how resilient we would be, for many of us 9/11 would be the very worst tragedy. We think of the families of the victims, those who survived but were forever changed, the city of New York, the rescue workers and every citizen of the United States who were deeply touched by that tragic day and wonder how we would cope. 

Last week Joann Rivers died and I thought about her coping with her husband’s suicide.  It appears that for her, humor and keeping extremely busy were her way of coping.  I read a quote she made about how she survived and it read, “I would like to say that it gets better…it doesn’t.  You get better!”  I believe that really is what resilience is.  Resilience means that you adapt to the changes, losses and failures in your life, so you can keep moving forward.  That’s what Joann Rivers’ did.

How do you become more resilient?  There are many theories and techniques that help people develop more resilience but for me, the underlying factor is mindfulness.  I teach clients mindfulness so that they become aware of their own behavior, realize why they behave the way they do, and accept responsibility for their own behavior.  You do not become resilient overnight or change behaviors that you have practice your whole life overnight.  However, with a plan, commitment and practice you build resilient which will lower your anxiety and improve your overall health.  

7 Comments to Resilience:

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alize why they behave the way they do, and accept responsibility for their own behavior. You do not become resilient overnight or change behaviors that you hav
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Psychotherapy is an expert discussion concentrated on expanding mindfulness and mental, passionate and social well being.You may think about whether psychotherapy is justified regardless of the time, cash and exertion.
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customwritings reviews on Sunday, May 27, 2018 3:53 PM
If I talk about myself I am really resilience person. As I know how to live in every kind of situation. As I believe happiness and sadness all are the shade of life. And we just face every moment with courage and confidence.
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loemrntdherid1 on Wednesday, August 22, 2018 3:50 AM
This is a really good read for me.
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superior papers on Saturday, November 17, 2018 5:29 AM
The events of 9/11 is the darkest moments in the modern history of America. Thousands killed by orchestrated terrorist attacks. The aftermath was even more terrifying. At that moment in time, Americans were probably thinking "how we can survive this?" But we did. There is still the specter of that horrendous attack. It will never disappear. The American way of life changed that day. Some didn't survive but many did. It is thanks to the resiliency of the human spirit, that something inside us that says never give up; there is still tomorrow. Many of us consciously made an effort to rise above that tragedy. This is why America is still standing and Americans are still fighting so that it never happens again.
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Deborah Guerra on Thursday, November 29, 2018 2:46 AM
Reply to comment on Thursday, February 14, 2019 6:31 PM
Hey, this is really informative and the results of the techniques are very amazing. Thanks for sharing.
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