Are you stuck
in a rut? Getting stuck is inevitable
but staying there is not. There are all
kinds of ways we can get stuck; exercise slump, relationship rut, career
stalemate, or an overall mental funk. Do
any of those sound familiar? There are
traps that we fall into that stall us and threaten to flat line our progress.
some helpful tips for getting unstuck and avoid the mistakes that sabotage your
- Start over – when we begin a new change we are enthusiastic
and we start to see dramatic changes; however, once we get comfortable we let
up on our drive. When you feel yourself
at a plateau, look back at what you did in the beginning. Use the same strategies that got you where
you are and start over.
- Keep an eye on your progress – you may not notice that your
progress has slowed until it is too late, if you do not track it. In the beginning set markers so you can track
your speed. If you are trying to
increase your income, track your salary and see if you are where you want to be
to reach your goal should you continue at the same speed.
- Avoid the quick fix – do you know someone who breaks
through being stuck by taking action, then finds themselves stuck again a few
months later? Is that your MO? You may be approaching the fix by seeking immediate
gratification and not looking at a long term solution. The way to avoid this is to trick your brain
by establishing short term goals that help you delay gratification. You can break down the big goal into smaller
steps which give you more opportunity for victories.
- Checking your body clock – this may seem odd when we are
talking about getting unstuck; however, when you realize that you are better at
8:30 am than you are at 7:30 am, it
makes sense to work when you are at your optimum. Timing is one of the biggest factors in
getting unstuck because; it plays into our interaction with others, our mental
status, our energy level and all other areas of our lives.
- Buddy system - when you feel you creativity is low
or you feel your progress as slowed find someone who has a higher energy level
and work beside them, bounce ideas off of them or just try to emulate them as
you go about making changes.
- In the box thinking – yes, it can be risky business but
when you allow yourself to think outside the box you will find yourself picking
up momentum because your enthusiasm has increased. You begin to reinvest in your future when it
becomes more interesting to you.
- Living on the edge – get comfortable with being
uncomfortable. When you think outside
the box and adapt a new set of options you are challenging the status quo. You may feel that it is safer to keep things
the way they are, but you can’t more forward and stay where you are.
- Try it on – this is different from thinking outside
the box. Trying it on, means to walk
around in your new approach. Visual what
it is like seeing yourself living with your decision. Go through your day, your week and even the
next ten years to feel what the ramifications will be to the way you operate.
- Weight the cost & benefits – this is an excellent way to get you
out of a rut, overcome a slump or a stalemate.
What are the costs of keeping things the same? Yes, there are costs
involved in not making changes and staying stuck. What are the costs of getting unstuck? What scares you most about getting out of
your comfort zone? Can you live with
that? What are the benefits of staying
stuck? Of course there are benefits to
stay stuck because you are comfortable where you are, even if you are miserable. That is because it the devil you know, not
the one you don’t know. What are the
benefits to getting unstuck? You should
be able to find those easily and see the potential as a exciting challenge.
- Don’t get too comfortable – you may get exactly where you want to be and then you become
comfortable with the changes so you forget to keep moving forward. For example you may be very successful at
weight loss. You have lost 50 pounds
through a program of dieting and exercise.
You have maintained the weight loss for several months and you are comfortable
with your new body. However, you are
seeing this as the new normal and not the new way of living. The weight will come back as soon as you
forget to keep moving forward. It is
simply essential to not feel once you have reached a goal that you are
finished. You don’t have to decide to
lose another 10 pounds or change careers; again, however, you do need to make a
new goal to maintain the changes you have made.