Are you lonely? We
all have the innate sense of wanting to be connected. However, sometime that doesn’t happen or it
doesn’t work out and you find yourself alone, again. Unfortunately, there are also people who
spend years in a marriage and are suffer from devastating loneness and
depression. You can be around people 24
hours a day but if there is no connection, you are still lonely. Feeling isolated can have a serious detrimental
effect on your mental and physical health.
If you feel emptiness that hits you daily so painful that
you can feel it in your chest, this is symptom of a severed connection with
humanity. This may instill a sense of
worthlessness and hopelessness, while at the same time feel soothing.
How do you heal loneliness?
First, you have to gain the awareness of your experience. Pay attention to what is going on in your
whole body. If you are feeling the
sadness well up within you, allow yourself to cry. Next, you need to be accepting of the
feelings of loneliness. Don’t try to run
away from the feelings or numb yourself.
Some times people try to get rid of the pain of loneliness by blaming
themselves. They criticize themselves
for not being worthy to others. They
look at all their failures and mistakes.
Instead become aware of the feeling and don’t try to understand it, just
accept and choose to be aware of it.
Finally, be compassionate.
Practice reminding yourself that other people experience loneliness and
it is part of being human and that most people experiences it at some time in
their life. Give yourself the grace that
you would give someone else. If you have
a support system in your life, reach out to them. Take a deep breath and call someone. Ask for support for what you are going
If you are in a relationship and are feeling loneliness is a
significant sign that your relationship is not emotionally close, supportive,
as intimate or as engaging as you would like it to be. This is one of the
benefits of feeling lonely, it let you identify the problems and helps you
determine what your needs are in a relationship.
One of the reasons that therapy helps with loneliness and
depression is because sometimes for the very first time, clients feel a
connection. The isolation ends and they
feel connected with humanity. This
simple act makes an amazing difference for many people. Then client learn how to connect and what
skills they need to work on so that they can develop real connections in their
If you struggling with loneliness
please reach out to someone. Call today
for a free consultation.